Last week I decided to go for a quick jog. It had been a while since my last run, but even though it was a rainy day, I felt like my body longed for a well-deserved exercise. I noticed that my endurance wasn’t what it used to be, but hey, I was doing my best! After 45 minutes I could see my house appear in the distance and I was about to finish my run. I smiled with self-fulfillment and decided to increase my pace to the finish line at home.
But then, out of nowhere came superwoman or “super mommy” so to speak. She pushed a stroller (with twins!) while running past me like a gazelle. Her legs must have been light as feathers, because she past me without a single drop of sweat! OMG woman, are you serious?! I though. In one split second my runners high evaporated in the air.
When I returned home, I realized that it is in our human nature to compare ourselves to others. Comparing yourself to other’s can be both inspiring and motivating. But when this comparison turns into jealousy, having less self-esteem, feeling frustrated etc. it might be time to snap out of it and give yourself a break.
Yes, we live in a competitive society with high expectations. We not only expect a lot from ourselves but also from others. We’re fighting to get the best job, we want to have cutting-edge gadgets, wear cool outfits, travel to faraway places and share the latest news before anyone else beats you to it.
Don’t we all know that wanting more stuff, wanting more money, wanting more parties and friends than the person next to you, is not the key to happiness? Will Smith was right when he said:
“Too many people spend money they haven’t earned, to buy things they don’t want, to impress people they don’t like.”
The truth is: there will always be someone “better” than you (smarter, taller, skinnier, faster, and richer) but, there will always be someone “worse” than you (fatter, shorter, slower, and poorer). Let’s just focus on ourselves instead!
Want to give yourself a comparison break? Below you’ll find a list of 10 things you should focus on instead:
- Think positive (you won’t create a positive life with a negative mind)
- Stay true to yourself
- Know your values (see blog post 24th June)
- Celebrate your strengths
- Surround yourself with those people who inspire you
- Learn from your mistakes (you’re only human)
- Know when “good” is good enough!
- Get on your own side (cheer yourself on)
- Improve yourself one step at a time
- Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle